In order for you to change your behavior, you need to target your own core beliefs. You have to make an effort to change your attitude. It will be difficult at first, but it will help you in the long run. Your attitude about things or situations is often tied in with your beliefs. Your actions and thoughts make up your beliefs and it is difficult to stray away from them.
You don’t have to leave your beliefs behind, instead you can modify them. Therefore, if you to need something in life, but they feel out of your reach then you might need to identity your core beliefs and alter them.
Your core beliefs are buried deep inside your unconscious. If you want to figure out where your core beliefs are located then you need to follow your emotion. You have to constantly question your emotion and understand how that emotion was created in the first place. If a person thinks you look funny in the shirt you are wearing, but you don’t feel that way about yourself then to you it won’t matter what they say.
No one can make you feel bad, only you can make yourself feel bad. If you think you look funny, then you probably do. In return, this will set off your own negative core beliefs that you have about yourself. Your core beliefs are made up of several factors.
Core Belief Systems
Your core belief systems are made up of values and opinions handed down to you from generation to generation. They are made up of societal, culturally based dogmas, and familial beliefs. You don’t see a reason to question them because raising questions about them may offend some people. In addition, these beliefs have been around for centuries. Moreover, our reactions to certain situations are automatic.
Automatic reactions are a vital part of your core belief systems. Without thinking, people act upon situations because they consider their actions as normal or habitual. Following are examples of what automatic reactions are:
You are not born with a core belief system, but as you grow older, you are taught about what is acceptable and what is not. Your elders like parents and teachers instill in you the automatic reactions you need to exhibit in certain situations. Apart from your parents and teachers, friends, society, culture, and religion also play an important factor in establishing your core belief systems. However, this can be untaught.
2. Impulsive Behavior
Sometimes, without thinking, you exhibit a certain behavior based on your belief system. You can control your impulsive behavior and think before you act.
3. False Beliefs
You strongly believe what you are taught growing up is correct and the rest is wrong. You don’t bother to ask questions and show ignorance towards the beliefs of others. Your blind obedience to your belief system narrows your thoughts. Instead, you can challenge your own belief system and ask for evidence regarding a certain belief.
4. Irrational Behavior
You at times can be so wrapped up in your beliefs that your behavior becomes irrational. You get extremely emotional when someone’s point of view doesn’t sit well with your belief system. You need to learn how to be tolerant of other people’s opinion
In short, if you want to modify your belief system you need to question some aspects of your core beliefs.
When in Doubt, Question
Doubting certain core beliefs can help you modify them. Everyone has beliefs that they have learned and come to terms with. What they fail to understand is that some of the beliefs they hold are powerful, yet damaging towards others or specific situations. Furthermore, if you doubt one of your core beliefs then don’t be afraid to ask questions.
You feel like you are constantly fighting over some belief in your head and trying to determine its authenticity then you should inquire about it. Especially, if you believe that it’s a negative belief you have and you want to get rid of it. Rationally build doubt in a certain belief so you can modify it.
Your intention is to alter your core beliefs and you can do that by changing your thoughts, choices, decisions, attitudes, behavior and beliefs, feelings, aspiration, imagination and expectation, and revelation.
Modified Belief System
You did not construct your belief system, but it was built as you were growing up. Now, you are uncertain about how to react in certain situations and you want to progress in life by changing your attitude. Moreover, you are harboring questions, you want to ask them, and you ready to modify your core belief system. You can if you change these aspects about yourself:
Your thoughts about different situations help you either succeed or fail. For instance, if you believe that you are going to fail the test, then you probably will. If your thoughts are positive then you will feel strong about your actions.
Once you start questioning your core beliefs, you will be faced with a lot of choices. You will make a choice based on what you value and not what others force you to value and adopt.
You will settle on a decision by coming to terms with your own individuality and that you are your own person because from here on your beliefs are your own.
You will no longer let others influence your thoughts, choices, decisions, and feelings.
After you have successfully modified your core beliefs by following the above 4 points mentioned above, you will have brand new attitude towards life.
6. Behavior and Beliefs
Now, your behavior and altered belief system will indicate your attitude. If you happen to change your core beliefs then you will have to change your behavior as well.
7. Aspiration, Imagination and Expectation
You should dream rationally and logically, imagine practically and realistically, and expect to go beyond your goals.
From here on, you set your own restrictions. The revelation about your core belief system is so real that it becomes a part of your attitude. Nobody can set restrictions on what you believe in, except you.
The practice to modify your core belief system by doubting, questioning, and changing it will benefit you by transferring your beliefs into a powerful state. In the end, it will be rewarding, but remember to do it correctly because you are your own person.