“The ineffable joy of forgiving and being forgiven forms an ecstasy that might well arouse the envy of the gods.” —Elbert Hubbard
One of the things people can do in order to achieve inner peace is to relieve themselves of all their burdens and live in their lives in utter bliss. You have to get rid of the stereotypes and the constant need for perfection in everything you do. Putting additional stress on yourself and chiding yourself for everything wrong that has ever happened to you in your life is the wrong way to live and will only weight heavily on you.
Consider this. When I was 15 years old I stole a $15 bill from my father’s pocket. I don’t really remember what I did with the bill, but it certainly wasn’t for something like food. That incident has haunted me for quite some time and I have lived my life in regret over stealing something from my father, and even though I have paid my father a thousand times over for the amount I took from him, that act still weighs heavily on me. I let this incident become a burden on my soul and I lived my life, looking at that negative incident and how I had wronged myself in the eyes of God. But after spending the better part of a decade brooding on that incident, I realized something extremely important:
What I do is not necessarily who I am.
I quickly learnt the fact that what I did when I was 14 could never be rectified. I had sinned as a child and took something which was never mine. I realized that I had to accept that as a mistake and focus all my attention on not doing that ever again and for setting a good example for my younger siblings. I told myself that it was okay to make mistakes, as long as I learnt from them and vowed never to make them again. This new revelation lifted the heavy burden which had weighed on me for such a long time, and I realized how people today let burdens weigh on them and ultimately define their entire lives.
The only way I could come to terms to reality was to accept my mistake and get rid of the burden in order to get ahead with my life, which is why I think it is important that people today learn to accept their individual burdens and take strength from them, in order to achieve true bliss in their lives.
“Forget your mistakes, but remember the lessons they taught you.” —Author Unknown
In order to help people relieve themselves from their burdens, here are six things that everyone should practice in order to find inner peace in their lives:
Accept and Admit the Wrong
The first part of relieving yourself from your burden is accepting the mistake and admitting that it was wrong. It is important not to accept our wrongs as being part of human nature, because then you are only living in a state of denial, which is extremely unhealthy for you. It is important to realize that everyone makes mistakes, and that everyone deserves second chances, as long as they use the mistakes as an important lesson in their lives and vow to grow from the experience.
“He who makes no mistakes doesn’t do anything.” — Author Unknown
Learn From the Mistakes
Once you have accepted the mistakes you have made, then it is important to understand the reasons why you made those mistakes. Was it only a spur of the moment reaction, or was their real intent and purpose behind your actions? Spend some time contemplating your actions and what caused you to make them. This will help you learn more about your nature and yourself as a person than any therapist could ever tell you. This can also help you get rid of the guilt and the pain of the mistake.
“We cannot make today’s decisions with tomorrow’s knowledge and experience.” —Author
Learn to Forgive Yourself
If you have made mistakes then you must learn to forgive yourself, in order to move on from the incident. You cannot decide when the other person will forgive you or how they feel about you, and if you can’t learn to forgive yourself then how do you accept the other person to do that. The burden of guilt weighs down heavily on people, and most of them spend their entire lives living under a burden. The best way to relieve yourself from the burdens of your mistakes is to forgive yourself, in order to seek forgiveness from the other party.
“The past should be a springboard, not a hammock.” — Irving Ball
Make Amends As Soon As Possible
Once you have accepted the mistake and forgiven yourself for the error, you should focus all your energy into making amends to the other party you hurt. It is important not to let yourself get too emotional when you are seeking for forgiveness, since you want them to forgive you without feeling sorry for you.
Don’t be hard on yourself if you find that the other person chooses not to forgive you, since you can’t really control the feelings of someone else. You should always wish them well and truly show them how much you want their forgiveness. If they chose to forgive you of their own will, then so be it, but if they don’t forgive you, never let that weigh on you as a burden.
“Never let yesterday use up today.” — Author Unknown
Learn to Never Make the Same Mistake Again
In order to really relieve yourself of your burdens you must focus on not repeating the same mistakes over and over again. If you don’t learn from your mistakes, then there really is no point in carrying an emotional burden is there? You have to use the experience you gain from the difficult moments in your life and cultivate them in order to achieve a brighter and more fulfilling future.
“Failure is an event. It is not a person.” — Zig Ziglar