Everyone wants to be respected in their family, job, relationships, and just general life. To understand what respect really means, it’s important to know the definition of the word. Webster’s dictionary defines it as being high or having special regard, and the quality or state of being esteemed. But how do you know if you are earning enough respect from others? Do people treat you politely, put your ideas into consideration, remember you on holidays? You know are respected when people treat you courteously like the way they would want to be treated. But have you ever met someone who was rude to you and acted like your ideas and opinions were meaningless? Did it upset or anger you? If you’re a self-respecting person, you likely want others to treat you with respect. Contrary to belief, age does not guarantee you respect, nor is it a requirement. Whether you are a student, teenager, new member in a company, or beginning in an industry, you can earn respect.
Getting respect from your peers is vital in basically any situation. While getting respect partly relies on giving it to people around you, you can ensure your respect by performing tasks correctly, treating others well, having good manners, and really just presenting yourself as respectable.
A lot of people think that learning to earn respect is key to living a happy and successful life. Below are tips and techniques that will help you.
- Be great at what you do. In all fields of work, the highly regarded people are those who do their job well. If you are just starting out in a job, that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve recognition, but you will have to build up your reputation. Through gaining experience and improving, you will establish yourself as an expert and get respect from others. It will not happen quickly, but the respect you will earn will be steadfast.
- Respect others. Respect is 2-way, and it is the Golden Rule for good relationships and an effective and efficient workplace. If you want recognition, you have to pay it forward first. Instead of complaining about how people don’t respect you, work on respecting those people who are treating you badly, and it will help you enhance the relationship. Another technique is that when someone is rude to you, think about a person who you’re treating like that and go mend the relationship.
- Keep your word. Nobody likes an unreliable or dishonest person. A well-respected person has honest communications and can be relied upon to do what they say they will. If for some reason you aren’t able to keep the commitment, be sure to address the other party accordingly and make up for it.
- Be open to criticism. Contrary to belief, being respected doesn’t mean you will not be criticized. In fact, you will probably be criticized a lot. The more well known and influential you are, the more people will like you and also dislike you. It’s not about rejecting the critiques but taking them graciously. People will respect you even more if you can take negative comments and turn them into something positive.
- Have self-respect. It is ironic that people seek respect from others but don’t respect themselves. How often do you blame yourself for things? Are you able to look past your faults and wholly and unconditionally love yourself? Do you neglect your well-being by not eating well, getting insufficient rest, or rarely exercising? If you do not respect yourself, no one else will either. Begin by loving yourself, and love from others will come as a result.
- Be professional. This includes having good manners, dressing well, having social etiquette, and speaking appropriately. It might be a good idea to go to a social etiquette class. The lessons aren’t genius, but they give you a chance to practice your social skills in a social setting and learn the do’s and don’ts.
- Don’t criticize others. Whether in a social or professional setting, it is inappropriate to badmouth people. If you don’t like a certain person or what they’re doing, talk to them and work it out. Don’t badmouth them behind their backs, because that behavior creates gossip and negativity. It not only makes you look like a bad person but also hurts the other person’s feelings. Be truthful and clear when communicating.
- Be firm on what you believe in. Don’t you find it useless after a while to deal with people who agree with everything you say? Most people have respect for people who disagree, civilly and knowledgeably, than those who say yes all the time. Your mind and opinions are what get you respected. Bravely stand up for what you think but do it in a professional and courteous way.
- Be yourself. Reflecting a bit on #8, people respect individuals, not duplicates of another person. Too many people work too hard to try to be someone else and end up losing their sense of self. Learn who you are and stand firmly in your individuality. The world needs more people who are true to themselves, not replicas.
- Be a role model. Like the saying goes, actions speak louder than words. Is your behavior role model worthy? Do you keep yourself to the highest set of principles? The most respected individuals are those who encourage others to work harder to achieve their best.
If you want to earn respect, you have to work to gain it; it isn’t just handed over. Gaining respect is usually contingent on your own abilities, like your characteristics, personality trait, and actions or series of actions. If you do not know how to command respect from others around you, you will never get it, even if you rightfully deserve it. The most effective ways to get respect can depend on the situations, but typically the advice is the same, and all of the above tips—though some may stand out more in your circumstance—can benefit you.